Come as you are

I once got a fortune cookie that said: “show your true face to those who really matter”. It has always kept me thinking, how many masks can one have to blend in?

I believe it is better to take the masks off. If you come as you are, maybe there will be more rejection as what you’re used to when wearing masks. But you will be wearing the truth, being the true you. I believe this way we can all save a lot of time, a lot of misunderstandings and a lot of disappointments. If you show to others what you really are, there is less chance to later on end a relationship or fighting due to disappointing someone. If others know who you are, it’s their choice to stick around or walk away. No mistery!

Wearing our truth, speaking our truth and being our true selves.

In a yogic path, during the years of practice and growth all these layers shed. The true essence starts emerging and connecting with the soul. Interests might change when the things that matter are discerned from the things that don’t. Satisfying someone else’s needs becomes irrelevant if it doesn’t feel well. Some relationships end, because the bond that kept them together became weak. But the connection with the supreme, with the soul and with the spirit grows stronger.

And suddenly, we start to understand the prayer: “From the unreal guide me to the real. From darkness guide me to the light. From death guide me to eternal life.”


Trusting the power of meditation

Just because it feels “odd” or the mind wanders around is not a proper excuse to say no to meditation.

What if meditation was advertised on YouTube like medicine, a product or a website? Would people then practice it?

I’m not going to quote today what has been researched, written or experienced about the benefits of meditation. But when I say that it is a good thing, I’m not just saying it because I think so. I know so. I have read, learned and practiced it.

Trusting the power of meditation is the best thing anyone can do for the benefit of their life. The mind, the soul, the spirit. It heals! And it does require practice and patience. Just like learning anything else.

Meditation is not about how one feels while meditating, but instead of all the benefits of meditating by itself. Habitually practicing it.

It’s the opportunity to disengage from the outer world and really connect to the inner self.

It’s a gift!

And it’s a practice that can be done until very old ages, and started at very early ages. It has no  limits!

Being grateful for every second

I am grateful for life. I am grateful for being so much loved. I am grateful for being so blessed.

My husband said to me today: we have to appreciate every second we are alive. There’s so much going on in the world, in this country, everywhere. It just makes me realize how lucky we are to be here right now. We must be grateful.

So my message today is about contentment and gratitude.


Blooming spring

Photo credits: Fabi Acosta

For those of us in the northern hemisphere, March 21 marks the spring equinox and the official beginning of spring.

At last, the cold, wet and dark days are in the past. But without them, things wouldn’t be as beautiful as they now are.

Every season has a reason.

Also our lives, our thoughts and relationships have seasons. So why stress so much about it?

Letting things be, allowing nature and time to be.

Just like breathing, we must allow the flow in and out. Or else we may stagnate the energy.

There are plenty of things that I can write about doing during spring. There’s cleaning. There’s detoxifying. There’s vision boards. There’s -yet more- resolutions about going outdoors, or becoming more active, or getting physically ready for the summer. And the list can go on and on…

But what about just flowing with our current life as it is? Every year has a spring. Can we all stop wanting to do something different or new and instead focus on loving what we are?

Can we, just for one spring, allow ourselves to be and live consciously happy? Just by embracing who we are!

Letting our life and creativity flow. Trusting. Living. Loving.

Allowing our true self to bloom naturally, just like the flowers in today’s picture. From a bare tree, suddenly, all the flowers bloom. Just like that.

We are part of nature. Let it bloom!

Choose positive thoughts

I was reading today an article about how a positive or negative mind can affect us and those around us.

Choosing to stay positive can be developed. The first step is identifying a negative thought, then consciously replacing it by a positive one.

The more positive we choose to be, the more grateful and appreciative about life.

Repeating ourselves affirmation is also key to stay positive.

Here’s a neat list to read every night before going to bed. Very valuable affirmations!

Why I love this prayer about patience

Patience pays, wait! Let the hand of God work for you. The One who has created you, let Him create all the environments, circumstances, and facilities and faculties.

Yogi Bhajan.- listen to it:

I love this prayer because it reinforces confidence in oneself. Trust in the creator and in the development of our lives. Don’t we feel sometimes “unworthy” or frustrated because life isn’t going “the way we think it’s supposed to go”.

Truth is that we are perfect creations, unique and individual. And that we MUST love who we are, the life we have and most importantly: our soul!

I wanted to start this year writing daily, yet I have not been able to do so. Should I stop trying? No. Should I give me a hard time for not doing it? Absolutely not!

I stick to my prayer and repeat to myself: patience pays, wait! And move on living my life.

There’s a lot going on in my life and my body. I’m consciously gestating life within me, living for my baby and staying away from any harmful thought or circumstance. Doing it the best I can. Listening to my body, meditating the best I can. Breathing! Doing gentle yoga when I feel right. Enjoying the present moment: my pregnancy! Preparing the nest and loving every second.

I’m grateful. I feel happiness.

And I trust.

This time I chose to try something new and I’m learning more about how to use this blogging platform. Which is why there’s an embedded link in my post. Let’s see how it goes.

Reminder to self: befriend your soul and be you!

Accepting all that you are regardless of others

It might be probably easy for someone who is the way others are. But when someone is different, the oppression over being someone else is big.

I mean, when everyone you’re close to thinks, acts, behaves and makes things differently. Absolutely different! The “peer pressure” becomes a true oppression. Because when the herd does things only their way, that means that if you do them “differently” you must be “crazy”.

And so begins the terrible transformation of neglecting your true self and becoming someone who acts more like the herd and is considered “more normal”. Or even worse, he/she is finally accepted.

This is wrong!

We have been told to be “more normal” and act more according with society behavior. And that’s the worst damage we can do to ourselves. Why? Because inside we reject our true nature, we end up hating who we are, we hurt the most precious and delicate part of our lives: ourselves.

Even worse, we become liars. We cheat on everyone. We are dishonest. And in the long run we disappoint “these others” and end up hurting them. Why? Because eventually this oppression will be unbearable and one way or the other we’ll stop being that “fake self”.

We are who we are and that is that. We must accept there are way many shades and unique personalities in this world. Being someone else in order to be accepted will only hurt ourselves and everyone else.

We must understand the difference between being yourself (no matter how “weird” others conceive it to be) and being crazy. I mean, there are a lot of mental diseases and disorders out there that are serious. That is absolutely different from being your TRUE self.

I understand how hard it is. Being myself has been a very difficult journey. And it still is. I disappointed a lot of people, because even though I’m not a professional actress, I love acting and I’m good at it. So I spent half of my life pretending to be someone others accepted. But it haunted me, my true self was so confined. I felt so empty. And it has not been easy. My true self was so fragile and insecure. I’m still insecure. But my daily practices, even small, my meditations and my development of mindfulness are always a great help. And I feel whole now. I have attracted people who I can trust and be my true self without filters in my life, and they are my support. And I finally start understanding what being happy really means.

But there are always obstacles down the road. I’m becoming a mom, the day I’ll hold my little loved one in my arms is closer and closer. I know what I, my true self, wants to do and the decisions to make concerning how I raise this little bundle of love. I must also stand by my little one like a lion, and show him/her to be its true self. Being strong and defending when all these others will come around and try to shape this innocent individual into being someone else.

But most of my family and old “friends” still pressure somehow in doing things their way. Inferiorizing my ways of living and doing things. Trying to impose their points of views over mine. And it’s tough, because I didn’t build a wall of privacy and set a barrier in the appropriate time years ago when I became an adult. So now, it’s hard to do so. But it’s achievable and it requires a LOT of security and confidence.

Truth is that once you learn to listen to your heart and trust yourself, it becomes easier to be less affected by others rejections and offensive criticism.

Maybe this little part of my story can relate to something similar those of you who read and have had difficulty being your true selves.

Because my message today is about reinforcing to be myself, and empowering others to be themselves. No matter how others will take it. Just loving with all your heart who you are and treating this true self like a fragile little baby. Building confidence. Standing for yourself. Speaking or expressing out yourself.

This is the best gift you can give to your soul. And feel compassionate and be more understanding with those who cannot be themselves because they became so used and attached to their masks. They are afraid of your empowering because if they lose their mask they will feel so insecure, they don’t know what it is to become stronger and embracing who they are. So love them too.

But today, we must not let anyone dull our sparkle. Our true sparkle.

Creating something new

I’ve been thinking on how to cook a version of custard that I could actually eat without regrets. The main ingredient of custard is dairy, and I can’t eat it because it causes an allergic reaction. I turn red and my skin gets inflamed. Besides, I must admit that I prefer vegan dishes. Even though this one needs an egg yolk, which I still kept as part of the recipe because it’s the only way I know how to keep the “custard” consistency.

Last month I got the family recipe for a (dairy) custard, and I cooked it and tasted really good. But then my allergic reactions started to bother… So I’ve been contemplating how to do it with an alternative that is as natural as cows milk with the required fat it needs.

Finally, it came to me: coconut milk! The best way of making coconut milk is with the real coconut, but when that’s not available then second best is going for a good brand of coconut cream. Such coconut cream can then be diluted with water and it becomes coconut milk. Always make sure the can is safe, meaning a bpa free and toxins free liner inside.

This is the final result:

Coconut Custard

I’ll be sharing the recipe after I actually try it and make sure this “creation” is a keeper. Maybe I have to do some tweaks or so.

Yoga Gem of the day

“To  practice Yoga, we must become craftsmen and -women of great skill and sensitivity. We master the art of Yoga as we gain self-knowledge and the capacity for self-transcendence. Searching deep into our mind and heart, we learn to exceed our ordinary boundaries and discover that we are immeasurably vast, surpassing even Nature itself. We realize that Nature, grand and fascinating as it is, is only a temporary aspect of the ultimate One, which transcends space and time.

Yoga provides convincing answers to the Big Questions- Who am I? What must I do? What is the purpose of life? and so on. Basically, the human enterprise can be looked at as a diversified quest for happiness. We all think of happiness, but frequently or perhaps even typically we look for it in the wrong places. We settle for temporary pleasures (“fun”), not understanding that pleasure is the obverse side of pain. Our lives thus are often characterized not by happiness (ananda) but by suffering(duhkha). Yoga digs deep into the reasons for this failure to tap into lasting happiness and shows us how to change our self-sabotaging behavior. It all begins and ends with the complex human mind, which is governed by ignorance and any number of negative emotions. Yoga not only points the way out of the maze our mind tends to create but provides concrete practical means for doing so.

Georg Feuerstein